The big hereafter
Saturday, May 30, 2009 at 03:01PM
Marie-Pierre Stien in Motherhood, empty nest, motherhood

 Motherhood has been unraveling faster than I can hold on to. 

Suddenly I have time for Yoga classes, pedicures and all the foreign movies I can watch.  No one seems to care what's for dinner anymore.  No one comes home for dinner anyway, unless it is by appointment and in between urgent text messages. 

I should be happy with my newfound freedom.  I should be reveling in long quiet evenings of literature and bubble baths.  The tub of chocolate pudding is all mine now. I don't have to curse whoever put the empty milk carton back into the refrigerator.  There's hardly a sock doughnut to be found under the living room couch.

I should be having dinner with friends and planning a return to graduate school or a trip to India or at least Seattle.  I should hop into my Honda and spend the weekend in Austin with Annette.  I should buy a better car, build a studio, drink wine with dinner, live a little.

Instead, I find myself going home to a string of frozen dinners and aimless chores.  I used to be important in this house.  I used to be Grand Command Central, Goddess of Family Dinners and Uber Organizer of All Things. 

What happened?   

Will someone ever need me again to soothe a fever in the middle of the night?  Or will the future be all cash, tuition payments and a phone call on mother's day?  Am I too old a mother-dog to learn a new trick?  Can I truly reinvent myself as everybody expects me to, and pronto? 

I have so much less energy than I had twenty years ago.  No script. 

What am I supposed to do of this big hereafter?

 

 

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